Thursday, June 9, 2016

Update on Dee Dee

We found out last night that Dee Dee's investigation report came back. As the social workers from ECAS (our adoption agency) read through the report they saw some alarming things that made them question Dee Dee's situation. They sent the report on for further review and guided council to their attorney.  The attorney also had some questions about the report. Without getting into all the details on the Internet, we've decided that because of the unknowns of Dee Dee's case and the complications that stand in the way, we feel it's best to decline. This isn't us not taking her because it will be hard or a long process (we know every case will be hard), but rather our decision is the result of the fact that our case workers don't think Dee Dee will be allowed through the system anytime soon (based on her report). 
We are sad. Sad for Dee Dee and her future and sad that we can't be the ones to be her forever family. All that said we really believe the Lord used her case to open our hearts and minds to more orphans- of both sexes and different ages. The Lord is definitely at work. We see it clearly. We don't know exactly what He has in store for us but we know He is changing our hearts in the process and deepening our faith in Him. 
Please continue to pray for our situation. 

Friday, June 3, 2016

Preparation and Waiting...

It occurred to me that our blog - you know the blog we started 6 years ago so we could keep you up-to-date on our family and adoption - would be a great place to post all our adoption/travel updates as we embark on our adoption journey in the next few months. Hence the name The Melting Pot. 

So here we are. 6 years down the road and in the midst of an International adoption. Things are crazy as we prepare to bring our child home, but we wouldn’t have it any other way! Here is the most recent update that we have: 

Last Friday we expedited our Dossier paperwork to Uganda which they received on Monday afternoon (5-30-16). We had to expedite the paperwork because we’ve been matched, preliminarily, with a little girl that we believe is about 1 year old.  Let’s calI her “Dee Dee”.  I spoke with our program coordinator, Emily, and she told me that she was hoping to here from our agency lawyer this week on the investigation that is being done on Dee Dee. Again, the investigation is in the best interest of the child and they do it thoroughly, so as not to overlook any parents or relatives that the child may have. She told us that if all this checks out then we would probably be issued a court date pretty quickly and that we would need to be ready for travel. 

So, Josh and I have spent this past week preparing for this should it be the case very soon. We got the whole family vaccinated this week, and made tons of phone calls to start arranging our life back in the States. 

We do plan to take the boys with us to be apart of this experience. While we have weighed the pros and cons of taking the boys, we feel like sometimes the Lord leads us to take risks for the sake of the Gospel and this is one of those times. We are also convinced that our time in-country with Dee Dee will be invaluable and we want them to be a part of each step as our forever family comes together.
Our agency will arrange all of our accommodations while overseas. We will be staying in a more ‘city-like’ place. Not The Bush, for sure.  We will have a translator should we need it but believe it or not the native language there is English. We will essentially be staying in an American compound with other American families who are doing the same thing as us. We have read up on all the safety precautions to take while there, and as previously mentioned, been given all the required vaccinations. We will work with our agency and travel agents to insure our flights and living arrangements while in-country. We have no idea how long we will be staying. Josh and I both really can’t imagine leaving Dee Dee once we meet her, so we have decided to see the adoption through in-country. While staying overseas most families are able to be with the child during the whole process. So even though she is technically living in the orphanage, once we get guardianship papers she can stay with us until the remainder of the paperwork, medicals, visas, etc. have been processed. We believe, no doubt, that this will be a special bonding time for our family! 

Basically we are just waiting patiently at this point. It could be a few weeks or a few months. Everything is kind of up in the air for now, so we would really appreciate your prayers. We know that the Lord’s plan is in place and everything will happen or not happen when it’s supposed to. We are just trusting and waiting… 

All of this to say, we will be limited on internet and phone access while we are in-country, but this will be our new means of communication to our family for day to day updates. Of course, we will try to make some phone calls while we are there. Please check the blog frequently for updates and such. We will more than likely not be able to post pictures of Dee Dee (or at least her face in the photos) but we do want to send some pictures your way. We are excited to see the first interactions of the kids and we want all of you to be a part of that as well.


We’ll keep you updated as we know more! 

Thursday, June 2, 2016

News On Our Adoption

Hi Family,

I wanted to write to let everyone know that Josh and I have received some news about a child in Uganda. Rather than making 10 different calls I thought I would just email everyone at once. The last 36 hours has been a roller coaster to say the least.

I got news from our social worker on Tuesday afternoon that Uganda’s government was in fact trying to pass some sort of Bill to change requirements for adoptive families. We have known that a Bill was coming but we weren’t exactly sure when it would happen or what exactly the Bill would state. Well, we still don’t know the exact bill as of now but we do know they are continuing to work (for now at least) with adoptive families who have their paperwork in Uganda. This was really disappointing news and we really weren’t sure what this meant for us or if God was even still wanting us to adopt from here. We decided with the case worker that we would put our paperwork on hold until she called us back with more information. 

As I reflected on the information that night I was realizing just how messy God’s Kingdom work is. However, the Lord has placed a strong conviction on our hearts to care for orphans. Specifically, International orphans. So my prayer really became that of “Lord, this may look completely different than we imagined but use Josh and I any way that you would to care for orphans.”
Fast forward to Wednesday morning. Our case worker calls us and I’m expecting to hear something about the Bill. Instead, she says, “I know you guys had requested a little boy but there are no boys coming through right now. If you are interested, then we have a little girl.” Of course I was blown away. This is absolutely not what I was expecting. 

We'll call her Dee Dee for now - she’s about 1 years old and I have a picture but I’ll wait to send it until you guys have decided if you want to pursue her (because she’s really cute). So I called Josh and we talked about it and of course decided that God has called us to care for orphans regardless of what they look like. Not just little boy orphans but little girl orphans as well. So we accepted!
So this is where we are right now. We officially have a referral for Dee Dee but it is pending an investigation. They do very thorough investigations into every orphan’s life to make sure that there are not family members available to care for them or that if they do have parents that they have legally consented to give up their child. I think the investigation will take several days, but if all checks out clear, then we can begin our process. In the meantime, we are shipping our paperwork to Uganda tomorrow. If all goes well then we could potentially have a court date to meet with the Embassy in July. 

All this to say that we really need your prayers. It is hard to discern the will of God. We don’t know if this is the child that He will ultimately have for us but we are willing to step out in faith and move in a direction that we feel He is leading us in. Only He knows and we trust that He is working all things for our good and His glory. 

 You can pray specifically for:
- His will to be done in all of this
- Josh and I to faithfully follow in obedience to where He is calling us (Uganda or not)
- The logistics of this case and traveling to Uganda
- Josh and I preparing our hearts for a third child
- Dee Dee to find a forever family whether it be our family or another family

We are so grateful for all of your support! 
In Christ,
Angie